Grief

Grief Img 1At that moment, everything changed.

The death of someone dear, a diagnosis, a miscarriage, job loss, or the death of a pet can cause grief.

Anger, denial, dread, guilt, and loneliness are all-consuming.

Everything becomes altered, and you find yourself revisiting the events incessantly, searching for an alternate resolution, questioning if there was any other action you might have taken.

The presence of absence is part of grief.

Grief is love without a destination.

In moments of loss, the absence of someone or something significant creates a presence of its own. The emptiness symbolizes everything dear to you, all that you hold close and yearn for. You try to hold onto it, revisiting the shared moments and cherishing your treasured memories.

You long for the pain of grief to subside, yet simultaneously, you hesitate to let it fully fade away.

136432721The pain of grief…

…is too much, too soon, and for too long.

Maybe you are going through anticipatory grief – the emotional pain that can surface in the days, weeks, or even years before the imminent loss of a loved one or another impending change.

Grief is exhaustingly debilitating.

There is no script for grieving.

I wished I had THE script; grieving doesn’t follow a set script or the right way; it is a personal journey with no strict rules.

The grief journey can extend over a considerable period, involving numerous tasks. There are days when you may think you are making good progress, only to be unexpectedly unsettled by a memory or a scent, causing you to feel like you are regressing.

You expect to feel sadness, but when a storm of other emotions, such as anger, yearning, regret, and guilt, sweeps through, it may leave you feeling thrown off, as if you’re doing something wrong.

It can feel like a dark place where hope can seem out of reach.

2410924709Guidance out of the haze is possible.

Even when confronted with profound pain, the human spirit can mend, create cherished memories, and discover a new way to bear the weight of that loss with resilience, strength, and laughter.

The goal is to feel more at peace with your loss, not to erase the memory. I have found that Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Somatic approaches, and Brainspotting can serve as valuable integration tools by assisting with processing the more complex and traumatic aspects of grief, including feelings of separation distress. Sprinkle in that I am present with you, you are safe, and together, we may even find some humor.

EMDR therapy can lead you to the surfacing of positive memories of your loved one or about your loss accompanied by associated positive emotional responses and release. For instance, you can transition from a sense of “I cannot connect” to a sense of “I can connect,” aiding you in fostering a compassionate integration and adjustment to your grief and loss.

Learn to incorporate the past with the future.

Support is here; you do not have to journey in grief alone. Therapy goes beyond simple coffee gatherings with friends (who are, indeed, a vital part of the healing process). I get it; grief is an intensely painful and vulnerable journey, and having someone to provide support as you navigate it can be profoundly beneficial, offering more than just conversation.

Whether your grief is recent or has lingered, grief therapy offers support in your mourning process. It is not about forgetting or “moving on,” but remembering, honoring, and fostering your personal growth.

I am ready to take the necessary steps with you. Two can carry the weight better than one. We can start with a brief phone conversation – no pressure.

Will you join me? I am ready when you are. Call at (512) 661-2912 and feel free to leave a message to ensure we connect. I will return your call or text message within 24 hours, whichever you prefer. I genuinely look forward to hearing from you. Or you may choose to complete the form below.